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Giant Brain Candy: Being There Beats Advice. Asked what helped after a sudden loss, bereaved people named presence, concern and a chance to talk. Advice, pushes to recover and ‘I know how you feel’ often felt unhelpful. Source: What helps the bereaved.
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  1. Lehman, D. R., Ellard, J. H., & Wortman, C. B. (1986). Social support for the bereaved: Recipients' and providers' perspectives on what is helpful. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 54(4), 438–446.

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Being There Beats Advice

Asked what helped after a sudden loss, bereaved people named presence, concern and a chance to talk. Advice, pushes to recover and ‘I know how you feel’ often felt unhelpful.

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